This whole “but how will we distinguish between flirting and harassment thing” drives me nuts, because it is such a red herring, at least for the current news stories.
None of the stories out there even remotely resemble ordinary flirting or courtship, where a man is trying to get a woman interested in him, or see if she is interested. None of them involve a man touching a woman on the arm, asking her for a drink, trying to kiss her, etc., being rebuffed, and then going away.
These people are masturbating in front of women they barely know. With no lead up. With no history whatsoever that would even remotely suggest the woman would consent to that.
When is the last time you approached a woman for purposes of courtship or flirting by whipping out your fucking dick and beating off in front of her? When is the last time you literally grabbed the ass of a woman you just met, and did not know or barely knew?
None of those things resemble flirting or courtship. Not in the slightest. It’s really not hard. It’s not awkward flirting or courtship being confused with harassment.
Awkward flirting consists, at worst, of something like going in for a kiss when you’ve misread the signals, being told she’s not interested or being pushed away, and then apologizing and saying, “I’m sorry, I really misread that, I thought you were interested.”
None of these things are that. To suggest that somehow the two are being confused is naive at the best, and intentional dissembling at the worst.
Honestly, even in the workplace, if you read sexual harassment legal cases, they are never the “innocent flirting” that people want to make them out to be. As big a shibboleth as it is to the right, workplaces really don’t fire someone for inadvertently touching a woman on the arm. The cases that I have seen (and I’m talking legal cases here) are, without exception, ridiculous. Repeated advances in the face of the woman asking the man to stop. Outrageous behavior, like direct sexual contact or displays, with women who in no way asked or consented to such things (we’re not talking about a single awkward attempt to kiss, we’re talking about grabbing breasts, etc.).
The notion that men will somehow be unable to flirt if these #metoo campaigns continue is ridiculous. The campaigns also will not wake up the harassers, rapists, etc., because they’re scum, and generally cannot be persuaded. What the campaigns will hopefully do is provide some additional protection to beleaguered women, and wake up non-abusive men to the environment women have to work and live in.