I should mock. I really want to mock. I mean-that’s a LAN party, not a bachelor party. But my best friends bachelor party about 3 weeks ago involved an “upscale” strip club for the whole night and I probably couldn’t have been more bored to tears if I absolutely tried. And the girls? Ugh, don’t get your disgusting germs anywhere near me. They all looked like they needed a shower with disinfectant.
No, no thanks. If I want drunk chicks doing stupid things, I’ll go to any local bar in DC and find far, far better looking women than won’t offer blow jobs for a buck 25.
I would think that a stripper would be the dumbest thing. I am 22 and I think that is childish. It would be really awkward I would think. Maybe going to a strip club, and not hiring an individual stripper?
When I was 14 or 15, I went with my father to his best friend’s bachelor party. It was at the friend’s house, and they had hired two strippers to come to the party. They were accompanied by big burly dudes with guns. It was creepy. Anyway, the strippers went around this guy’s back deck doing their thing (it was in the country, so no neighbors). Even as a pubescent boy, I wasn’t aroused at all. They were pretty women; high class. But the whole thing was so staged and so non-sexual despite the nudity that I didn’t feel anything but a bit of repulsion. One actually came over to me and I just tried to ignore her until she passed on by.
The groom, however, had this predatory look in his eyes. He was practically drooling. It was disturbing and left a very vivid mental picture in my mind.
I’m not saying I’m against strippers. If you enjoy them great. But I’ve never gotten the appeal either. Similarly, I’m not sure if I could use an escort unless she was really good at the GFE.
Just a friendly FYI, you sort of ruined your case for not being a fan of the strippers or the escorts when you started using jargon like GFE that I have to google to understand your post. ;-)
Heh. I actually found that acronym in a recent Playboy article. I’m not against looking at nude women or porn. I’m talking about paying a woman to pretend she would like to have sex with you.
I’m with the people who mentioned being embarrassed by the strippers’ presence. I went to a giant company party that had paid dancers rocking out on platforms, and I felt really awkward and uncomfortable. They’re there to make the party feel ‘special’ in some way, but I couldn’t meet their eyes. They’re probably down with getting paid to dance, but it made me feel yucky. That whole presentational “we’re having FUN” vibe really annoys me and turns me off.
I have friends who are in both camps, some think a bachelor party demands strippers and drinking until you pass out, and some who would rather just do whatever the groom and his best friends enjoy best, be that video gaming, making music (I have a couple of musician friends) or going to a sporting event followed by a nice pub crawl. Luckily, I’m cool either way. =) It boils down to the individual. I’d never feel right forcing a guy into a situation he was genuinely uncomfortable with just because it’s considered “tradition”.
One of my best friends wanted to head up to Mammoth for the weekend: rent a cabin, hike, fish, bond with all his friends. Sounds good when you’re married with kids and need to get away, but not a bachelor party.
We nixed that idea and spent the weekend in Mandalay Bay which involved booze, boobs, more boobs, the groom walking around the suite so shit-faced he was stark naked with a raging hard-on brought on by 2 little blue pills yelling “I AM THE MAN!!!” repeatedly. Then standing guard at the bedroom door while 2 of the girls we brought up worked on relieving him of his condition.
The wedding 2 weeks later was filled with sideways glances, winks, nods and discreet fist bumps. Mission accomplished.
It’s the whole “last chance to do something you probably couldn’t do after marriage” thing. I don’t think doing something you would probably be able to do after marriage is a really meaningful bachelor party.
That being said, suggesting a first-time commercial sex experience is probably going to be awkward (unless you know an awesome hooker), and doing a friend/colleague is probably an even worse idea. A stripper could be the ‘safe’ middle ground of not going all the way and why this seems to be so popular.
I don’t get how someone who is days away from tying the know is comfortable cheating on his affianced… is it that sex workers aren’t real people or what?
The friend who wanted to go camping was the groom? If not, disregard the rest of the post.
So instead of indulging the groom and celebrating the way he wanted to, you got him drunk and priapic, and induced him to cheat on his theoretical soulmate? Nice. Personally, I’d prefer to do something less classifiable as “date-rape by proxy.”
Also, our way of doing it doesn’t involve looking at the groom’s boner, or any boners for that matter.
Yeah, no shit. I mean, if it’s an arranged marriage or something, I guess it doesn’t mean as much, but every relationship of everyone I’ve ever known is fully committed by the time they get married. If it’s a marriage for love I don’t see how cheating before the wedding is any different than cheating afterward.
I don’t get how someone who is days away from tying the know is comfortable cheating on his affianced… is it that sex workers aren’t real people or what?
Yeah, that’s where I’m at as well. Is he already anxious for the chance to cheat? What are the odds on the marriage lasting 6 months?
I couldn’t imagine banging strippers days away from my wedding day. Good lord, have a -little- class.
Well it’s better than doing it afterwards isn’t it? Really Bill summed this up quite well, it’s a last taste of the bachelor lifestyle so that one can feel a great deal of relief in leaving it behind.
Hey now, don’t go projecting your values onto everyone. I’ve seen crazy stuff at bachelor parties and the grooms went on to be nice stable happy married men with successful marriages.
