Why are so many men so horrible towards women?

Yes.

Though in that context it’s worth noting that it was not only social media that contributed to the silencing - regular media were also active, asking the survivors to “moderate their tone” and not “cause more conflict” after July 22.

It’s basically the usual. Don’t call the racist a racist, because it might offend them and be the cause of hate crimes. Especially don’t do so if you’re the victim of a hate crime - that’s drawing the victim card.