The best thing I’ve seen along these lines is the Kendo group I’ve had contact with in our area (Kendo is a martial art where people hit each other on the head with sticks). They are a small Korean group (so technically it’s Kumdo), and they are polite and utterly inclusive. The Master of the group (forgive me…I don’t know if the term ‘dojo’ is appropriate) also runs a youth volunteer organization that cleans up local parks.
The first time I had contact with them was when I went to watch a training session my girlfriend and her son were attending, as they had joined. It was at a local community center. I was shy about going in and was just going to stay outside the gym and watch through the doorway. One of the women members immediately approached me and welcomed me in, noting with a smile that I noticed to take off my shoes, and one of the men there immediately got me a chair and got me to sit down.
All that is to say that there are such community groups. We just have to seek them out. I’m having a hard time with that with my son, because I want him to have those experiences, but not at church or the mall.
That said, if my son were to choose a faith to follow, or a church to join, I’d be open to that. I’ve always been clear about that with him. I’d just help him navigate the choice. If you know what I mean. Having lived on both sides.