Tom, clearly the radiation is not effecting the writer part of you. That cut through the cynic in me this morning (bad day) and hit me right in the heart.
This may be cliche’, but what do I know, a recommendation from a good friend with cancer: a very, very good friend of mine, who also happens to be in my labs here, had prostate cancer some years ago. They took out his prostate, but then 2 years ago he walked in my office, said he had just returned from Mayo (it’s only about 3 hours or so from here, so everyone goes there for serious issues) and they had told him they were very sorry to tell him it was back. My friend told me he would need to take time to go to Mayo on a regular basis and likely would be in what he called a “Chemo haze” for about a week when he got back, so he’d need to do paper work and not lab work during that time. Being somewhat slow I didn’t “get” that what he had was metastatic prostate cancer until a couple of weeks after he told me, and that there is no cure, and all the articles say best case is 2-5 years. When I read that on a Saturday morning it was like someone kicked me in the balls. Somehow, today, two years later, you could not tell his situation if you didn’t know it. Most people in the company don’t know.
I told him, over lunch last week, about your situation. He immediately said, tell Tom if he hasn’t read it that he might read a book called Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn.
It is apparently “The” book on Mindfulness Meditation. My friend said he always thought of meditation as hippies sitting in a lotus position humming “ommmmmm” but his oncologist at Mayo recommended the book. I recently read it myself, and it is really a great book for just living in the moment, not necessarily getting rid of the waves in the ocean of your brain but learning to surf them rather than let them drown you. Terrible description, sorry. But apparently it is a very recommended book by the oncologists at Mayo. For my friend, he said it helps him a lot dealing with the reality of what is coming very soon; he said for non-terminal cancer patients it is helpful in dealing with the treatments and all of the competing flock of thoughts that fight for your brain. He also said that the time when you’re in radiation or chemo therapy is a great time to practice the meditation exercises; he laughed and told me that making that time is a challenge, but for patients going through treatment you get the bonus of having that time on a regular basis.
I don’t have cancer, so I can’t vouch for how helpful it can be, but I’ll offer that because I promised my friend would. :)
Oh, in case it hasn’t been said recently: fuck cancer.