I’m reasonably certain that on the night of the Octane Awards, Phil and John attended instead of Tommy because he was at “Secret Knock,” an invite-only, $3000 a ticket party for “influencers” to network and share ideas, in the spirit of the self-help book The Secret.
It was there that Tommy met Leah Amico, an Olympic athlete. He put in her medals, marveled at the fact that her husband’s name was Tommy, and he too was from Massachusetts. In other words, he made it about himself, as usual.
This was posted Sept 30 2021 if you care to line up the dates: https://at.tumblr.com/tehfootbath/how-do-you-meet-an-olympic-athlete-and-say-how/ve82hxnch57b