This isn’t about people sucking or being jerks or just being awful. Uncontrolled greed is awful. Lack of sympathy and empathy is awful. Throwing trash in the river is awful.
This is about the perception that some people are less than based on what they are, born characteristic, not like political choices or life choices. You fight that by not accepting less than or letting racists redefine racism until it’s more comfortable for them.
If someone looks at a pool of people, doesn’t recognize some of them but only takes their aggression on the black ones, that’s racism. If someone decides not to bag someone’s groceries because the person buying it is black, that’s racism. If some cop decides to shoot someone in the back and knows he will get away with it because the target is black, that’s racism AND violence AND a potentially murder, but it’s all based in racism They’re dismissing life, rights, and basic decency based on someone’s physical characteristics. None of that is okay. There’s really no such thing of this racism being not so bad and that racism being a lot worse because of the outcome. All of it needs to socially rejected as not okay. And we didn’t get the point we are today because people are openly shooting minorities in the street. We got here because of this other stuff some incorrectly attribute as somehow not so bad as the actual violence that makes the news.
Where the grey line exists is racist acts / ignorance vs. the actual person being basically embedded in racism. You can work with the former a lot easier than you can with the latter. Heck the former might not even realize they’re doing it, and if they are open to change, that’s good, but still hard work for everyone involved. The latter can be dangerous to work with, or even impossible for the average person. And while messages about Ghandi or reformed Neo-Nazis are an internet fav, the world isn’t made up of a couple billion Ghandis, and it’s not a reasonable ask to have every black person on the planet play nice with the Nazis. If someone wants to do that, wants to reform them, engage them, fine, but it is simply not a reasonable ask to expect every person faced with vile, hateful and threatening acts to simply do these magical and perfect things all in the hopes that one day all the effort might lead to reform instead of their murder.
It really is heartbreaking to see people question this young man’s version of the event despite knowing what we know about the woman, who later assaults the actual police and is now charged with assaulting the teen AND the police. She is clearly not an average, not a reasonable person… and he has some footage to go with it.
So many minorities can’t even tell people about their frequent, too frequent, encounters with racism, because the bar is so freaking high no one believes them, no one wants to believe them. And now what, we have to start recording the entire event or… it didn’t happen? Ugh.
And just in case it’s not clear, no I am not accusing anyone I am engaged with in this discussion or most the site as actually being racist. You’ll know if I think that because I will tell you, and there will be no doubt when I do. I am, however, challenging the perception that racism is ever minor or that any response towards it should be less than outrage.